Friday, February 8, 2008

How Christian Guys Can Attract a Christian Single Girl

So you want to attract a nice Christian single girl? Well, the best place to start is to find out what "floats the boat" of single Christian girls when they are attracted to a guy. Do you think you have what it takes?

Since I lead a Christian singles group, this question always seems to pop up in discussions. Well, here we go: We found some online surveys about Christian single girls (ages 18-70) you may find quite interesting. What's the bottom line here? If you dont have any of the following five qualities single Christian girls look for in a Christian single guy, you may want to consider becoming a eunuch.

Christian single women want a guy who is passionate about his Lord. Nothing is more attractive to a single Christian girl than a guy who is in love with Jesus, and passionate about following Him. A guy sold out for Jesus lets the single Christian girl know that he is not afraid of big commitments as in, ahemmarriage. I cant believe I just wrote the M word!

Christian single girls put a high value on a guy who can honestly share feelings. She wants to be able to trust that her potential husband is a man of his word, and faithful to her. It also doesnt hurt that he is not afraid to cry while watching sad movies. Look, most of us have been burned by fakers and liars, and it hurts big time. For some of you guys who do have a problem in this area, I suggest listening to that old Billy Joel tune, Honesty, and doing a Bible word study on the word.

Christian single girls are attracted to a guy with a good sense of humor. Life has lots of bumps in the road, and a sense of humor will help her keep perspective on what is really important (Col. 3:1) when the going gets tough. Plus, these kind of folks are just fun to be around.

Single Christian girls are looking for a guy who can provide a stable environment. Translation: A single woman finds a man appealing who has a steady job and loving relationships with his immediate family members. This shows the single Christian girl that the guy is dependable, consistent and able to provide for a family.

This issue of provision is extremely important for a any single woman looking for a mate. Look, were not talking Donald Trump here, okay? As my one Christian single girlfriend says, If he has an operating drivers license and a job, thats good enough for me.

Finally, Christian single girls relay that its important (but not most important) that they be somewhat physically attracted to the man they marry. In other words, when a single Christian girl looks upon you, she should find something appealing about you physically. You may not be a Brad Pitt, but you almost certainly have at least one feature that is above average in appearance.

Well, guys, there you have it. Whether you meet someone through an online Christian Dating/Matchmaking site or church singles group, what Christian single girls want in a guy remains the same.

David Butler is a minister to singles, and has an interactive website,, that addresses singles related issues.Valentineroses